In everyday situations where conditional positive feedback tied to achievement is repeated, which aspects of what constitutes a 'good life' is the pressure on a child to prove their own worth undermining?

I think I should first organize my personal thoughts on the 'good life.' I believe a good life is a happy life, and its conditions are as follows. First, a local 'happy state' can be described as 'a state in which anxiety about existence has been resolved.' Because human cognition is finite, this state can be reached from time to time. We may briefly become intoxicated by a sense of elation in which some action, plan, or decision seems like a magic bullet that can solve every problem. During that short time, we do not perceive anxiety. Sometimes we may fall into a situation, held in the arms of a parent, lover, or pet, where all worries seem resolved, and in that moment the relationship between me and the other, and their state, seem to be the whole world. That moment can also be called happy. Also, happiness can be achieved by playing a game designed well enough to give a sense of efficacy, or by limiting the range of one's perception through psychoactive drugs such as alcohol. In this way, a 'happy state' can be assumed. I think a good life, viewed from the maximum range of an individual's perceivable scope, is a life in which the expectation of such happy states is high. Conversely, if anxiety about not being in a happy state is high, one will be unhappy. For example, let us consider the life of a golden retriever named Goldaeng, who has a temperament that is entirely positive and content, and who grows up under an owner who provides a moderately good environment and gives plenty of time and love. Goldaeng's life seems to be a good life. There is no excessive worry about the distant future, and one can firmly believe that tomorrow will be happy. Although in reality its ability to respond when its environment suddenly changes is considerably lacking compared to humans, Goldaeng does not recognize this itself. Thus it comfortably fulfills its lifespan, spends happy time with its owner, and closes its eyes. I think Goldaeng's life is a good life.

If we think about a 'good life' in this way, when a child is constantly plagued by the pressure to prove their worth of existence, two factors undermine the value of a good life. The first is anxiety about proving oneself, and the second is the potential risk caused by dependence on the external environment. Since the first is rather self-evident, let me describe the second: in Goldaeng's case, a smooth life was presupposed, but if the owner changed into a very bad person or it were confined to a poor environment, it would rapidly become depressed. In this way, that child's sense of efficacy could be maintained only because the environment provided those conditions. From a statistical perspective, this dependence lowers the probability of being happy